Communication is the key to social-ability, and the most important social skill. It is crucial for proactive and assertive behavior. Countless individuals with whom I have worked have presented their problem as a conversation disability. They say “I don't know how to keep the conversation going”, “I have nothing to say”, or “what do you say after you say hello?” Their social and performance anxiety is characterized by overvaluing what they believe are errors or mistakes in communication. Often they experience visceral discomfort concurrent with embarrassment, humiliation, and fear of rejection. Many individuals have an overpowering need for perfection in the communication process. When their concept of perfection is not reached, anxiety rules! It is common for obsessive thinking to result in avoidance of the situations where communication is a challenge. The more avoidance takes place, the more communication skills are inhibited. Likewise, as an individual is dependent on others to communicate for them, the learning of communication skills will be inhibited.

I have “performed” on over 1200 television and radio shows, everything from Oprah to “Opie and Anthony”. The key to my success has been communication. The key to developing my communication skills has been experience and learning from, rather than overvaluing, mistakes.

This process is the key for resolution of social and performance anxiety.

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1. Free social-ability questionnaire
2. Free Introductory CD
3. Free CD. Hear Robert, an extremely gifted salesman, explain; in depth, how he conquered his crippling fear of public speaking via telephone therapy
4. Free CD: Hear interviews with 5 patients who have resolved and cured Selective Mutism
5. Free video of Sally Raphael show featuring a number of patients with social anxiety ($10.95 postage in the U.S., $19.95 outside of U.S.)
6. The book, "Beyond Shyness: How to Conquer Social Anxieties" (Simon & Schuster)
7. Comprehensive self-therapy audio CD program
8. Comprehensive therapy in Great Neck, New York
9. Telephone therapy
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