Social Skill Problems
numbers of times, parents have come to me explaining that their
children have "social skills problems". Indeed they do! However,
well-meaning parents often simplify the actual problem. This
is because social skills have to be learned experientially.
They cannot be learned off a blackboard, or in a book. Etiquette
can be learned this way, but it is different for social skills.
Often what confuses a parent is the fact that anxiety inhibits
the process of learning social skills. This is because anxiety
creates avoidance. The more avoidance, the less an individual
has the opportunity to learn skills.
Social anxiety is the ultimate social skills deficit. The
more it is controlled, the more learning can take place.
Social skills deficits affect individuals of all ages. For
example, many adults explain their challenge as they don't
know what to say in social situations. They don’t know
what to say after they say “hello”.
Social skills challenges include communication-conversation
issues, body language, social-ability, interactive sensitivity,