My 7 year old daughter has Selective Mutism
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My daughter was diagnosed when she was in pre school with SM. We always thought she was shy but when school started she was in a frozen state. She would not play in the centers and with the kids in the classroom but when they went outside to play she would play with the kids non verbally. The next year in kindergarden it was much better she did the work in class and also did alot more non verbal things. Now she is in 1st grade and she is about the same. But this summer we had family visit that come every year and she use to talk with them but doesn't anymore. Also my son, her older brother got out of the Air force and she quit talking with him. She will play and pick on him but she can't get her words out. It has been 7 months. The only adults she talks with now are myself, her dad, her grandma and her older sister and her other brother that is 17. She does not talk to most of our family members and to the kids at school. She will talk with her friends at our home and out in public when we are at a store or kid friendly place.Also we have taken her to 4 different therapist . My question is how to I get her to share her feelings and teach her how to open up? I have been listening and reading everything on your website about not enabling which we have been doing her whole 7 year life. And the thing you said about SM kids being detach is my daughter. She has never been able to explain her feelings. Also you mentioned about starting about 5% ,not take everything (enabling) away. Can you explain how to do it? My husband and I are very motivated to help her and agree on what you are saying. We are going to have Christmas at our house this year and most everyone that is coming she does not speak too. I usually answer for her and I don't want my relatives and her feel bad should I explain to them what we are doing they all know she has SM? And should I explain to my daughter I am not answering for her? Thank you
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