Self Esteem

The Berent Method: High Performance Therapy for Social Anxiety

This information is the result of providing treatment to thousands of individuals of all ages since 1978. The following description of the Berent methodology is for individuals who have “initiative” for the healing process.

High performance therapy for social anxiety, performance anxiety, and extreme shyness is based on an integration of core work with technique. Core work includes the process of helping the patient resolve the core emotions of embarrassment, shame, and humiliation associated with excessive nervous system activity. At the root of the anxiety-driven visceral response are historically learned negative associations to adrenaline concurrent with the emotionality of a nurturing deficit and the resulting self-esteem challenge. Read More

Self-esteem is the core issue in social and performance anxiety. It is important to consider the difference between a person who says, “I have lost three battles” from the one who says, “I am a loser”.

Failure has more to do with one’s self-concept than one’s actual unsuccessful experiences.

The person who suffers from social or performance anxiety misinterprets unsuccessful experiences. Not winning, making mistakes, rejection, and failing at something are too often interpreted as a flaw, or an no the core of the person’s being. Unresolved, uncomfortable emotions from the past are activated by “performance” challenges.

Do you think that great homerun hitters like Babe Ruth, Hank Aaron, Roger Maris, or Barry Bonds are remembered for their strikeouts? As great a basketball player as Michael Jordan is, he missed many more shots than he made. Surely Mick Jagger and Tina Turner missed a few notes in their time. Surely Bill Gates made a few mistakes…

Self-esteem is a sense of liking yourself, liking how you relate to others, feeling personally secure, and not having to prove your manhood or womanhood with external symbols.

Self-esteem Scale

The self-esteem scale below measures how highly you value yourself.

In the past three months indicate how much each of the statements represents the way you think or feel about yourself:

Very Much
Somewhat
Not Very Much
Never
I minimize my abilities
3
2
1
0
I expect others to fault my work
3
2
1
0
I wish I were someone else
3
2
1
0
I make demands on myself
that I would not make on others
3
2
1
0
When I succeed I don’t think I deserve it
3
2
1
0
I like who I am
0
1
2
3
Under pressure I expect things to go wrong
3
2
1
0
I blame myself when things do not work
the way I expect
3
2
1
0

Scoring

Healthy
Fair
Guarded
Unhealthy
Score
0-6
7-10
11-15
16+

About Jonathan

jonathan-berent1 Jonathan has pioneered psychotherapy for social anxiety, public speaking anxiety, and performance anxiety since 1978. He has worked with thousands of individuals of all ages in individual, family, and group therapy. He is the author of “Beyond Shyness: How to Conquer Social Anxieties” (Simon & Schuster) and “Work Makes Me Nervous: Overcome Anxiety and Build the Confidence to Succeed” (John Wiley &Sons, Inc.) Jonathan is an expert in media performance having been featured extensively on television, radio, and in print. This experience includes Oprah, NBC, CBS, ABC, CNN, FOX, The New York Times, Newsday, The Chicago Tribune, and The Boston Globe.berent-basketball Listen to him on WFAN SPORTS RADIO. Jonathan has extensively researched and developed clinical programs for the avoidant and dependent personality. He is a “diplomate” in clinical social work and is certified in New York State. In addition, he is certified by The Association of Applied Psychophysiology and Biofeedback. To view Jonathan Berent‘s pioneering work with Social Phobia, view the 1988 Sally Jessy Raphael Show by clicking here. To view jonathan talking about Workplace Anxiety on Long Island News Jobline, click here.

Self-Help & Treatment Options

  1. Free Introductory CD
  2. "Social Anxiety the Untold Story”: Comprehensive Self-Help for Sufferers and Families
  3. The book, "Beyond Shyness: How to Conquer Social Anxieties" (Simon & Schuster)
  4. The book, "Work Makes Me Nervous: Self-Help for Performance Anxiety (Wiley and Sons)
  5. Comprehensive self-therapy audio CD program for social and performance anxiety
  6. Public Speaking Anxiety: Self Therapy Audio CD Program
  7. Therapy in Great Neck, New York
  8. Therapy worldwide via telephone or Skype
  9. Selective Mutism Seminar on Audio CD
  10. "Parenting The Selectively Mute Child": Self-therapy Audio CD Program
  11. Free social-ability questionnaire
  12. Subscribe to the Tip of the Month Club
  13. "Social Therapy and the Learning Disabled: A seminar on Audio tape and mp3
  14. Free "Parent Addiction" quiz
  15. AskJonathan: Get your questions about social anxiety answered