Affected loved ones, support, understanding, & patience
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Very recently discovered I have social anxiety/phobia. It has been a part of me for decades & didn’t know what to call it. Married for nearly ten years & have come to realize most of every struggling moment has been affected by my anxiety/phobia. Without going into much detail, she said she would be understanding and supportive as I try to overcome and cope with it. Much of what I’ve learned I have shared with her. That included me preparing myself to go out into public, how I feel when people are around especially in crowded situations, or meeting people for the first time. Of course more was talked about. She has asked me to at least share with her when these feelings start to come on. I also told her that I worry how she may judge me for it and get angry, especially if it involves something that she wants to do. Today just played into that fear. We were going out and while we were on the road, I asked her, “Do you remember telling me to let you know how I feel when I start to feel it coming on?” She said, “Yes”, so I told her. What I got was, “So what? We are almost there. Let it go. Your negative vibe is upsetting me. Am I supposed to work what I want to do around your issues?” Needless to say our outing was cancelled and of course my fears among others were realized by her reaction. I still apologized and told her I was really sorry it’s affecting her, I did what she asked me to do, and what I got in return doesn’t help. I have visited many sites regarding my issue and have not come across a similar situation. I know I can’t be the only one experiencing a crisis with a spouse or loved one. I have ordered Social Anxiety: The Untold Story and waiting for it to arrive. Will the information in the DVD help me/us in some way?
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