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Fear of not being able to sleep
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I have severe social anxiety, I avoid many social gatherings and even avoid making phone calls. I have such bad anxiety that I literally have gotten so worked up that I can't sleep and I now am fearful that I won't go to sleep. I am now taking Remeron to calm down and be able to sleep. Now I feel spacey and am hungry all the time. I can't focus at work and make more mistakes, which makes me more anxious. I don't want to take medication, but I can't get off. I have been trying for 3 yrs now, help! I feel like my life is just passing me by. I have started reading your book Beyond Shyness.
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Thank you for sharing. Remeron is an effective medication (for many) for sleep challenges. Like most pharmaceuticals, there are side effects. Think of the medication as a tool to faciltate your doing the "core" work. It's a good bet that in your pre-conscious and unconscious domains (as well as your conscious, which you are probably not dealing with effectively) are uncomfortable and disturbing content, which over-activates nervous system activity. This over-activity manifests with sleeping problems, as well as anxiety and stress related physical symptoms.
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